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if you could witness any event past, present or future, what would it be? I know it's impossible, but I'd love to have witnessed the birth of the universe.

if you could know the answer to any question, besides "what is the meaning of life?", what would it be? I'd want to know if my grandmother is proud of my sister and I.

what’s the best/worst gift you’ve ever given/received? The best gift I've ever received is a person; my sister Sasha. The worst gift was a worn pair of underwear an ex-boyfriend gave to me. I don't know about the best gift I've given, but the worst was this deformed clay pot I made at school and gave to my grandmother for her birthday.

What are your tips for someone who wants to be just like you when they grow up? I don't know how to answer this, really. I don't know anyone who would want to! Keep going, I guess. Just keep learning, stay hungry and try new things. Keep pulling yourself out of bed every morning, especially the days when you just want to curl up and cry. And try not to stress, because that just makes you feel awful. Try not to get in your own way. Wash your face twice a day and eat your greens. Does that help?

What are your top three favourite places in the world? My bed, the ocean, the open road at night. This sounds like a Lana Del Rey song.

What do you do to relax and unwind after a long day? Sleep is so great. I think it depends on the day, if I'm mentally exhausted, I try to exhaust my body so that I can get a good night's sleep, if it's the opposite, I'll read before bed. Wine or vodka factors in there sometimes. A face mask, my "tranquility" playlist, lighting some candles or incense.

Who's your current celebrity crush? Tatiana Maslany. She has such a grace about her and a vulnerability that I find so endearing. Antonio Banderas, because he's Antonio Banderas. Tim Curry. Justin Trudeau. ...I have a lot.

If you could swap lives with anyone for a full week, who would you want to swap with? If it meant I could give her a break from her hectic schedule, I'd swap with my sister. But I know nothing about her work, so I'd probably get her fired or killed or both. At least then she wouldn't have such a hectic schedule?

What scares you? The unknown. Losing my memory. Heights.

Top 5 favorite movies of all time? Beauty and the Beast, French Kiss, Titanic, Flashdance, An American Tail.

Do you watch porn? Yes, but not very often. I like a certain kind and I only know it when I see it. I prefer to read erotica. but it has to be quality. Anais Nin, that sort of thing.

What makes you happy? Feeling good in my skin and when the people I love are happy.

Describe the perfect vacation. The last three weeks that I spent in Europe were close to perfect. But there's always more to see and to do. I'm just happy to be out in the sunshine.

What makes you angry? I get more frustrated than angry, but social and political injustices set my teeth on edge, particularly those surrounding women and women's rights. Ignorance and those who buy into it because they refuse to question themselves or the status quo. Anybody who lacks empathy. Selfish people.

If you could live in a book, tv show or movie, what would it be? The Lord of the Rings. I would live in Rivendell, the last homely house, with all the elves and all the other Tolkien nerds. Mae Govannen, my friends.

What animal best represents you and why? I want to say something grand like a dragon or an eagle or wolf, but it's probably more like an otter, because they like the water, they're intelligent and intuitive, but prefer to laze around for most of their lives.

What do you define as family? A group made up of people who are willing to make sacrifices for each other's happiness.

If you could live forever how would you spend eternity? I used to think about this all the time as a kid, actually. But I could never come up with an answer. I know that I wouldn't want to feel lonely.

In what ways do you hold yourself back? I have a fear of failure. It's a healthy one now, but it used to paralyse me when I was younger and I know I missed out on a lot of opportunities because of it. If I couldn't do something perfectly, I wouldn't want to try at all. I'm much more open to making mistakes and giving things a go nowadays.

What book has influenced you the most? Technically, they're short stories, but I'd say "The Little Match Girl" and "The Gift of the Magi".

Who is your favorite pseudo-sibling? Yes, it's you, you moron.

What was your dream job growing up? I wanted to be an actress and a ballerina. My Bubby used to call me "Ingrid Bergman".

what do you miss most about your home country? The people. The ivy covered houses. The bird song.

have you thought about getting more pets? if so, what kind? I can't believe I'm saying this, but I do miss having a cat at home...

after spending so many years on your schooling, do you miss it at all? I think I miss that sense of wonder and possibility -- being so naive to the world at large and having big dreams about what you're going to achieve. You can lose that as you get older.

has there ever been a time where you felt like you threw away your shot? Definitely. All the time. But I also believe that I'm in the place that I'm meant to be. I just have to stay alive.

what would you do if idris elba showed up at your front door right now?

you open your fridge and realize someone has replaced all your food with things you hate to eat. what's in there? Ugh. Sweetbreads. Raw meat without any of the fat cut off. ...Just thinking about this is making me ill.

who would do such a monstrous thing? Probably you... I hate you.

how's your day? what's been the highlight? I got my first tattoo. It's really itchy.

do you have a nickname for your least favorite person? what is it? if you don't have one, make one up right now. Taylor Swift. 🐍

there's a message on your voicemail that will make your life better, what does it say? "You have free tickets to Hamilton: An American Musical! And the original cast will be performing! Also, all your student debts have been paid by Lin Manuel Miranda! He wants to be your best friend, and wants you to see an advanced screening of Moana! And meet The Rock! This is not a joke!"

what will your tombstone say? If it's not "Watch this Space" then it will be four holographic Aziz Ansaris singing End of the Road. I'm not that fussed in all honesty, as long as there are no spelling errors. Otherwise I will rise again to throttle whoever carved it.

if there was a cocktail named after you what would be in it? Vodka.

if you could own any one super designer item of clothing/accessory what would it be? I want thigh high Chanel boots.

if you could swap lives with one fictional character who would it be and why?

what would be your "last meal" if you were on death row? An entire wheel of soft cheese and a baguette. I'm hoping this is a French prison.

Where would you ideally be ten years from now? Thinking about that too much gives me hives. I'd like to be a mother. Maybe. I don't know.

What's something you're passionate about and could discuss for hours on end? Sailor Moon.

Did your parents pick you out of a Precious Moments book? Because you are adorable (and that's almost a pick up line, isn't it?). Oh my god, you're the sweetest. No, they did not, but I love this.

Do you have any "deal breaker" pet peeves? I do and they mostly relate to personal hygiene.

What country would you like to visit that you've never been to? Japan!

Have you ever tried any of those 'outside the box' ice cream flavors? I haven't! I usually default to coffee or hazelnut or chocolate.

Lace, silk, or some other kind of lingerie? Silk > Lace > Leather

first and foremost, will you marry me? I love that this is first and foremost. Yes!

what's your biggest accomplishment? Finishing my thesis and earning my PhD.

what's your biggest fear? That no one really cares.

how do you handle confrontation? I dance around it and then explode and usually say something awful that I instantly regret.

what are three things you want to do before you die? Climb a mountain, Jump out of a plane, Have a baby. All at the same time.

are you addicted to Pokemon go? I am. A little. I feel like I've been on level 24 for a thousand years and I still don't have my Blastoise.

how do you deal with people that annoy the fuck out of you? I try to ignore them or block them out as much as possible. That doesn't always happen though, so I tend to curse a lot and punch things.

where would you like to travel to next? Big Sur. I'm going there in a few weeks!

on a scale of 1-10 how angry of a person are you? It changes all the time. I think I sit at a 7 most of the time. I've been learning to meditate and that helps.

if you were on death row, what would be your final meal? Why does everyone want me on death row? What have I done?

how old would you be if you didn't know how old you are? This is a great question, because it stumped me for ten minutes. Late teens, probably.

if happiness was the national currency, what line of work would make you rich? Teaching. ...did I answer this right?

what is one thing you would want to change about yourself? I'm prone to possessiveness, so learning to let go is my challenge.

what's one thing you would want to change about the world? There's so many things. I think inequality is the biggest problem, whether it's economically, socially, etc. No one should be so poor that they can't afford food or health care.

have you ever seen insanity where you later saw creativity? Yes. Many of my college advisers could be mentioned here.

are you holding on to anything you need to let go of? Yes. There's a lot that I need to purge. I'm getting there. Slowly.

what traits do you look for in a friend? Honesty, loyalty, kindness, and a childlike sense of fun.

are you happy? if not, what would it take to get you there? I am happy. There's a lot going on in my life and none of it seems to be going to plan, but I'm the happiest that I've ever been.

what is your love language? Physical Touch.

where do you look for beauty? Everywhere. Right now, with him dozing next to me, I don't have to look very far. Ugh, mush.